Well, the mentor in my story is dead, but...here we go lol
All she wants is strength. Strength for her daughter, strength for her friends, and especially, strength for her granddaughter. She wants them all to get everything they deserve and she won't have some man, even her son-in-law, trying to take anything away from him. So she leads by example. She shows them kindness and doesn't shut her mouth when she see something that isn't right. She's lived too long and been through too much shit for it to be any other way. She would never be so uncouth to say something like "eat shit" but that's exactly the attitude she tried to impart on everyone she knows.